I've always believed in Travis McGee's philosophy of taking your retirement in little pieces as you can afford it.
Personal Life is pointless
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i dont think OP mentioned audiobooks. that was me lol. and no. thats pretty much it
VolunteerMatch - Where Volunteering Begins
Just start doing something.
I agree with pretty much everything everyone has said. Too many dark thoughts, doctor. Instead of just working for retirement, you should definitely set a different kind of goal. Make lists. Places you want to go on vacation, things you either enjoy or know you used to enjoy. Is there something you're into enough that you can save to start your own business? Not wanting a spouse and children can be freeing - you can take risks or take on additional commitments (unless you are a caretaker for someone else).
Make a list of new things to try, even things you don't feel like doing right now. Write down what you like and dislike about each one as you experience it. Also, do a little research - what does it take to be certified in different things. Maybe go back to school at night just for kicks -- you could be a bookkeeper in two semesters I think. Pick up what the local colleges offer by way of "continuing education" - they usually have classes just for fun too, like tennis or pottery.
Watch the movie Groundhog Day, then pick something to practice every day. Or learn to make something -- my sister is disabled but she uses her time at home to crochet a lot -- she participates in different charity projects. She makes things for cancer patients, and she makes blankets for kids going into foster care, so they have something that belongs to them and goes with them wherever they go.
Also, retirement should be amazing. You can go bowling Wednesday mornings and no one else will be there.
How to Always Have Something to Look Forward To
Just start doing something.
I agree with pretty much everything everyone has said. Too many dark thoughts, doctor. Instead of just working for retirement, you should definitely set a different kind of goal. Make lists. Places you want to go on vacation, things you either enjoy or know you used to enjoy. Is there something you're into enough that you can save to start your own business? Not wanting a spouse and children can be freeing - you can take risks or take on additional commitments (unless you are a caretaker for someone else).
Make a list of new things to try, even things you don't feel like doing right now. Write down what you like and dislike about each one as you experience it. Also, do a little research - what does it take to be certified in different things. Maybe go back to school at night just for kicks -- you could be a bookkeeper in two semesters I think. Pick up what the local colleges offer by way of "continuing education" - they usually have classes just for fun too, like tennis or pottery.
Watch the movie Groundhog Day, then pick something to practice every day. Or learn to make something -- my sister is disabled but she uses her time at home to crochet a lot -- she participates in different charity projects. She makes things for cancer patients, and she makes blankets for kids going into foster care, so they have something that belongs to them and goes with them wherever they go.
Also, retirement should be amazing. You can go bowling Wednesday mornings and no one else will be there.
How to Always Have Something to Look Forward To
so true
My Lady and I live in totally different worlds
she is over achiever who barely is ever in the moment, barely smells the roses
I live day to day and get lost in the moment thousands of times per day
Very odd
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This is very true.
I went to 12 years of school from college to fellowship.
I spent almost 10 of it only looking at horizons and future someday goals.
It was effective in keeping my eye on the ball.
But one day I blinked, and 10 years had past. Friendships disappeared as they weathered with time and the lack of nurturing. I found my social net increasingly full of acquaintances and no close friends. This was despite being a highly extroverted social person.
I moved twice in that period and none of those bonds were particularly strong enough to handle that distance for anytime.
Somewhere I took a break, went on a trip, and that kickstarted something in my head. As cliche as it sounds, I had forgotten how to live in the now. I have since completely flipped my thinking.
Don't sit at home often.
Just go out and sit in the park if you aren't up for a lot of activity.
Call an old friend and reconnect.
Travel.
Don't worry about buying shit or impressing anyone. Just figure out, "this month/week/day, what can I do in life that is enjoyable and different than last one?" And then do it.
It is about having the ability to enjoy the breeze, the smell of grass, or a smile. It is those little things that can start a movement, a beginning. And I know that sounds new wave and all that, but I have found it to be true in my own experience. Meditation is also a valid method because you can tune out the white noise, the shit that clogs up your day-to-day thinking. It's like saying, hold the fuck up for a moment, what am I doing? And if all is well, then rock on.
Great fucking idea.
dude, couldnt agree more
i literalyl EVERY day look up at the sky and say holy shit. day time, nighttime, doesnt matter
we are on a rock, HURLING through space. it helps me realize how wild life is. how mysterious this universe is. and it helps me. so im not just a pyscho by mentioning something like this on here every couple weeks. i write it in hopes that it will become part of someone elses life since it benefits my own
i drift... i think its related to the small stuff, too. if u take the time to 'let go," of your life, troubles, anticipations, etc and look to the sky and think about that... then u will find urself drifting occaisonally by accident and notifcing small things like the wind blowing the trees or the grass. its a lifestyle change. and its arguably a form of walking meditation or something
And if that doesn't work, go outside and start running. You'll have no energy to feel down.
The answers you seek can be found in two Swedish masterpieces.
The Seventh Seal
A man seeks answers about life, death, and the existence of God as he plays chess against the Grim Reaper during the Black Plague.
Wild Strawberries
After living a life marked by coldness, an aging professor is forced to confront the emptiness of his existence.
The Seventh Seal
A man seeks answers about life, death, and the existence of God as he plays chess against the Grim Reaper during the Black Plague.
Wild Strawberries
After living a life marked by coldness, an aging professor is forced to confront the emptiness of his existence.
YES!