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La Paix

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So right away I'll say it's not me who's training but my kids, 5&7 boy and a girl.

I felt kind of psychic yesterday. Before taking my kids to BJJ I like to either talk about things I've seen from them I'd like to be worked on usually or if there's time do some quick positions and talk about why they're learning them. What we did in the living room was simple. Never lay flat on your back or belly whether a it's drilling or rolling, seatbelt, hooks, roll em over. We did this for 10 minutes talking it out and they did some positions then it quickly turned into a warm up roll with them having fun. Sure enough these were the exact things their coach did when I got to class so I was pretty happy they could get another hour of this drilled into them.

What I usually do is get to the gym early, park right at the big windows so I can see the mats, give them a pep talk about having fun and respecting everyone in there and under no circumstances do they cry or whine, none. Then I send them in while I enjoy a coffee and watch them warm up and once the technique starts I'll come inside and watch and listen.

So the new thing I'm doing now is try to think of fights (MMA, don't watch any pure grappling yet) where these techniques were used and it's best if it's a finish or at least turning point in the fight so they can see how effective these moves really are and watch them after class together at home. So as I said last night was seatbelt, hooks and roll em over so before class was over right away I thought of Fedor vs Sylvia. When we got home they grabbed a seat on the couch and I pulled that fight up on Fight pass and we watch it at least ten times and it was a hit! They loved it, as did I!

Before posting this I was in another thread in here reading about drill, drill , drill. I make sure my kids aren't the ones who complained that they just did a certain tech last time and ask why do they have to do it again. While watching the Fedor mauling I kept telling them " yo, kids...This guy is the GOAT, best eva! And check it out, he's doing the EXACT same things as you two were doing all night, how amazing is that!?..." I made it clear that the best in the world do the same day one one drills as them and to never underestimate how important it is to just put time on the mats. Hopefully I can keep it up and keep remembering fights that can show great examples.

Just thought I'd share and see if anyone else does this or anything else to drive a lesson home as best as possible. They loved seeing how the moves played out in real time and I sure they have more appreciation for that sequence.
 

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i dunno why, but the caveat in the first sentence had me expecting some bad news. that was a feel good story! very cool
 

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Bad like for ever tap in class they go a round with pops?
ha no i got it now. it was the title. i interpretted "after bjj" as meaning that they are no longer doing bjj, and was expecting some sort of horror story
 

maurice

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Good job. Word of advice from a parent who is also a youth coach:
If they enjoy it, keep it up. If they don't enjoy it or just don't feel like doing it one day, don't force them. Extra drilling is the difference between being good and being great, but it's not worth damaging their love of the activity or your parent-child relationship.
 
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Good job. Word of advice from a parent who is also a youth coach:
If they enjoy it, keep it up. If they don't enjoy it or just don't feel like doing it one day, don't force them. Extra drilling is the difference between being good and being great, but it's not worth damaging their love of the activity or your parent-child relationship.
I couldn't agree with this more.
 

La Paix

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Good job. Word of advice from a parent who is also a youth coach:
If they enjoy it, keep it up. If they don't enjoy it or just don't feel like doing it one day, don't force them. Extra drilling is the difference between being good and being great, but it's not worth damaging their love of the activity or your parent-child relationship.
Solid advice, thanks. This will probably be the hardest part for me, finding a good balance of fun discipline.
 

Filthy

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I got a good bit of parenting advice from my friend, specifically about jiu-jitsu, but applies to other activities as well.

Make a rule for extracurricular activities. Tell them "I make plans and it's disrespectful of my time to make me change those plans at the last minute to suit your whims. If you don't want to go to class, you have to let me know 2 days in advance."

It's brilliant. Kids are impetuous, but if you make a rule that they can agree to, and then enforce it, they'll get to class and have fun once they're there. If they're telling you a couple days in advance that they don't want to go, then you're being counter-productive by forcing them to go. Have a talk, find out why they don't want to go.
 

RedDragonUK

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Do you yourself trane Birdwatcher? I agree with the others as long as they enjoy it that's all that matters