Men are not alone. Women will do this in friendships also.. If YOU allow it.
I agree with
@Yossarian and @Splinty .Here is the problem. You allow them to do it in the beginning when it's most important. This time is laying the groundwork. I make it a point to tell people early on, first time they start easing into my personal space I tell them to back off. You go quiet or "ghost". And how is that working for you?
I'm not mean so I kinda make a joke that gets the point across.
Where have you been?
Nunya damn bizzness.
And don't tell where you have been. If they push, get serious and tell them to fuck off. It's a minor thing but establishes boundaries efficiently.
Every single time a gf starts bitching about how someone is treating them, I say "well you allow it."
Be confident In who you are. Don't pretend to be someone else, more passive, in the beginning. I think you will be pleasantly surprised in the results.
And here it is, the key! We have a winner!
Thank fuck for that!
"He needs to be confident but not too arrogant"
"He needs to be funny but not like goofy funny"
"He should be spontaneous but only when I'm expecting it."
"He needs to know the exact time to say all the right things"
"He needs to know the right time not to say anything."
"He can have his friends and do things with them but only when it's convenient for me."
"He needs to be funny but not like goofy funny"
"He should be spontaneous but only when I'm expecting it."
"He needs to know the exact time to say all the right things"
"He needs to know the right time not to say anything."
"He can have his friends and do things with them but only when it's convenient for me."
I'm really terrible at not just telling the truth. A guy will ask you and look you right in the eyes for signs of dishonesty and I always just cave.
I just Don't approach with any future plans. Like I'm not thinking I need to set boundaiesI agree with
Here is the problem. You allow them to do it in the beginning when it's most important. This time is laying the groundwork. I make it a point to tell people early on, first time they start easing into my personal space I tell them to back off. You go quiet or "ghost". And how is that working for you?
I'm not mean so I kinda make a joke that gets the point across.
Where have you been?
Nunya damn bizzness.
And don't tell where you have been. If they push, get serious and tell them to fuck off. It's a minor thing but establishes boundaries efficiently.
Every single time a gf starts bitching about how someone is treating them, I say "well you allow it."
Be confident In who you are. Don't pretend to be someone else, more passive, in the beginning. I think you will be pleasantly surprised in the results.
With anyone because I'm not thinking of these people in my future just yet and like before you know it they're telling me what to do.
M what are you doing on this date?
W I have assignments and I made plans a week ago
*DATE ROLLS AROUND*
M why Don't you come with me, I made insignificant plans but i'm bored and this is my day off and I probably want sex?
W I told you weeks ago I couldn't because I had important things to do today.
M They aren't that important.
*block*
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In my experience, women almost always opt for the man who tries to/does control them. You can say whatever you want but in my 41 years, it has never benefited me to be the nice guy, not even once.
It has nothing to do with future. It's about now. Don't allow it to start and it won't be an issue. And this is true about all relationships, friends, co workers, etc.
Stop trying to control
@Banchan!
This also.