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SongExotic2

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Because women are incapable of controlling themselves

Left to thier own devices they do dumb shit then freak out.
 

sparkuri

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I realize You're trying to redeem your gender but let's be real. There are more guys than men.
I'm not trying to redeem my gender, I'm trying to point you in the right direction.
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Yossarian

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You decide how the people in your life treat you, male or female. And you won't have this scorned bullshit. Asshole? cut the cord, move on. Keep close to you the good ones without spreading that venom other's have injected you with. Then you don't have to be resentful and bitter about the other sex. If more people would understand this we would'nt have to play the us vs. them game which is really unfair to us all.
 

Banchan

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You decide how the people in your life treat you, male or female. And you won't have this scorned bullshit. Asshole? cut the cord, move on. Keep close to you the good ones without spreading that venom other's have injected you with. Then you don't have to be resentful and bitter about the other sex. If more people would understand this we would'nt have to play the us vs. them game which is really unfair to us all.
These are all idealized piece of advice but You're a man. You have never been subject to another man trying to subject you to complete dominance. It's like men are secretly insecure about their status with a girl they want to make sure they can have a grip on her so they Don't invest in something that can spiral out of their control.
 
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You know when you run into the same problems over and over and over you might consider that it isn't everybody else.

 

Banchan

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Ok, let me know when I can talk again.
Trust me i realize what you're saying. We should respect and not blame new people for what old people did but there's something you might not understand because you are a man and this is subconsciously a power struggle between the genders where men try to seek or groom a woman into his subordinate. When you are all attracted and it's new and exciting you may disregard these things because you want to be close as possible to this person but as time wears on you notice them and if you are strong willed this begins to chip away at your nerves.
 

Banchan

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You know when you run into the same problems over and over and over you might consider that it isn't everybody else.

Absolutely. I have very low tolerance for being micromanage. However is it normal to micromanage your girlfriend? I think that's wrong.
 

Yossarian

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but there's something you might not understand because you are a man
This is where you are wrong. Empathy is not determined by gender, nor is intellegence, nor is being a decent person that upholds values. I believe there are these men that long for dominance, but most certainly there are women who want the same dynamics in their favor.

When you are all attracted and it's new and exciting you may disregard these things
This is immaturity, and is also, not gender specific. Experience and age should prevent you from doing this over and over.

The worse mistake you can make as a person is to assign your dissapointments to other people, especially when grouping them in gender, race, or cultural sections, it's just not doing you any service. You can only learn and decide what you do not want in your life, and take action when something creeps up.
 

Banchan

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This is where you are wrong. Empathy is not determined by gender, nor is intellegence, nor is being a decent person that upholds values. I believe there are these men that long for dominance, but most certainly there are women who want the same dynamics in their favor.


This is immaturity, and is also, not gender specific. Experience and age should prevent you from doing this over and over.

The worse mistake you can make as a person is to assign your dissapointments to other people, especially when grouping them in gender, race, or cultural sections, it's just not doing you any service. You can only learn and decide what you do not want in your life, and take action when something creeps up.
I like this in theory but I'm not sure I'm entirely wrong. I feel like it isn't just me being the common denominator either. I feel like a lot of men do like being the dominant figure in a relationship. They like to have the deciding say in important matters and they like to have an obedient wife or gf and they want to come first in your life.
 

jason73

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These are all idealized piece of advice but You're a man. You have never been subject to another man trying to subject you to complete dominance. It's like men are secretly insecure about their status with a girl they want to make sure they can have a grip on her so they Don't invest in something that can spiral out of their control.